How Divorce Did't Completey Ruin My Life

The day I met my ex-wife was probably the most memorable days in my life. The weeks of divorce proceedings where the few times I regret meeting her. Thankfully, my dear friend is one of the best divorce attorneys on Long Island. We met in college at my fraternity's mixer. She was just a freshman and I was a junior, and her beauty made me weak in the knees. So weak that I almost did not approach her. By the end of the night I got her number and by the end of the month we were dating. I didn't realize it until after college but it was kind of a story book ending when we got married.

The first few years of marriage were amazing. I couldn't ask for more in a wife and a life partner. We had our first child two years into our marriage and our second the following year. I love my two children more than anything and the first thing I worried about when the divorce talks started was what was going to happen to them.

The divorce was mutual yet my wife had given up on trying to make it work. To be honest I truly was enraged with my wife and hated her during the divorce and the first few months proceeding it. We decided to split custody of children. I would get two days a week and every other weekend along with certain holidays. Not seeing my kids as much as I would like was hard enough. What really bothered me though was that they were confused and mentally hurt from the whole situation. My son started to do bad in school. He got sent to the principal a few times for fighting with other students. This behavior is completely contrary to how he acted before our divorce. My daughter on the other hand has been very quiet. She mainly spends a lot of time by herself, in her room with the door closed.

It really gets me nervous to think about what will happen to them in the next few years. I have confronted my wife about this and I get the feeling that she either A) doesn't care or B) I am the one to blame. I have to say that this whole process has made me a stronger person. I used to always put my wife's happiness before mine but now after the happiness of my children I put mine own happiness first.