The Trial and Tribulations of Divorce

Divorce can be one of the toughest times in a person's life. Take it for me, I recently ended my marriage of 17 years from my wife Lisa. It's hard to pinpoint when and why it went south but one thing is for sure, it made me a stronger individual and although I still love my ex I am happier with where my life is today. The first step I took when we both decided our courtship need to end, was I contacted a Long Island divorce lawyer. My best friend who has been through 2 divorces told me that the most important thing you can do is get great legal advice so you don't lose more than you should. Although, it was hard sitting with my attorney face to face with the women I fell in love with almost 25 years prior I knew that a divorce could help us both achieve happiness in our lives.

There was so many things going through my head when I thought about the divorce, what will happen to the kids, the house, our money, and the rest of our assets. We worked out custody of the children which was fair to both of us, even though she would receive the bulk of the time with them. The house and possessions on the other hand was a bit tricky. Since I was well off before the marriage and actually previously owned the house before we were married I was able to keep the house! This was great, although all the memories we made in the home made me eventually decide to move out. Since my wife was a stay at home mother I will be paying child support until my kids turn 18 but I worked out a good settlement with her because I want her to be well off even after I am done with the payments. One thing you should note is that child support payments will start once the divorce is filed. This surprises many people who get divorced and find themselves 5 months behind in child support payments.

After all was said and done I must say that I am happy my divorce was so painless. The fact that I am financially very comfortable helpful my situation immensely. I could imagine if I was struggling to pay the bills the divorce would of been far from a walk in the park. I hope that if anyone decides to get divorced they do it to improve their lives, because the fighting and stress takes its toll and enjoying life will not only make you happy but it will add years to your life.